My dd has always had lots of fun handing us things. Oftentimes when we're eating together, she hands me whatever she's holding at the moment.
I realized so often we say "Oooooh well thank you so much, how kind of you" or things like that, and take the item from her.
I speak the truth now: "Thanks sweetie, I don't need another spoon for now. You can put it there".
It feels better for me, and I believe for her, too. Because I take her more seriously this way, telling her how I really feel, and how eating with someone else works. I believe she's happier knowing what she's really supposed to do, instead of interacting with someone who makes things up to keep her supposedly happy.